Professional and Personal Growth

Say less than you know but know more than you say. Speech, the verbal word. Your friend, ally or most dreaded enemy. It is believed that our verbal word makes up 7 to 40% of communication with 60 to 90% nonverbal communication attributed to body language and tone of voice. There are several variables to this analyses ranging from age to culture. I want to explain the relation between verbal and nonverbal communication through personal experience. “Have more than you show, speak less than you know.” - William Shakespeare – People judge you by what they see then get to know you by what you say. It’s important to first appeal visually then back it with intelligence. Body language is the ‘show’ part but in many cases the ‘show’ can be misleading. I have met many people that did not match their appearance. I have also met people that were spot on. Now to turn the table and assume an introspective view. Do you match your appearance? When we deal with other people in a relationship or pro...

Overthinking Synonym’s: brood, consider, deliberate, despond, dwell upon, fret, gloom, grieve, lament, languish, meditate, mope, mull over, muse, ponder, reflect, repine, ruminate, sigh, speculate, stew over, sulk, sweat out, sweat over, think about, think upon, worry, focus, peruse, speculate, scan, revolve. ( https://www.neowin.net/forum/topic/293798-synonym-for-too-think-too-much/ ) (Mar 7, 2005) Most of the above mentioned words amply describe overthinking. In my opinion it sounds like a therapist describing a person suffering from depression or anxiety disorder. Why? Because in many cases it is. Even though overthinking forms part of the thought process it should not be confused with analytical thinking or problem solving. I like to differentiate between these thoughts by classifying them as positive and negative. Analytical thinking, problem solving and planning all deal with negative subjects but have positive outcomes in mind. Whereas negative thoughts on negativ...

Waiting, you either like it or are so upset at the human factor causing your current frustration that you don't have the clarity of mind to realize that you are in control of what you do while you are waiting. Time brings me to the point of this little note. How important is your time to you? Time is worth far more than any monetary currency. You have a limited amount of time to live. Time spent waiting is equivalent to life time wasted. When you wait you are not doing anything to add value, or grow in any way. I am currently waiting on someone. Instead of being consumed by the misery that overthinking can bring on, I am taking this time to write about waiting. Why write? you might ask. This is a technique I use to help me understand a subject better, and I get to do something I enjoy. What could you be doing when you have no other option but wait? The possibilities are endless, even the act of solving the aforementioned problem is a blessing in itself. While thinking abou...

Not an easy subject by any means. Firstly it begins at a molecular level. How your genetics influence your biochemistry and ultimately how these are in turn influenced by your habits. Secondly how your Psychology is influenced by the effects of Sociology on your mental development and the person you ultimately become. A question that always fascinated me is the one of fate or destiny. Was the homeless person siting on the corner living off scraps destined to be there? How about the CEO of a fortune 100 company? Let's put aside the stereotypical answer where the CEO came from a rich family and the homeless person prefers to beg rather than work. My point of view on the subject delivers the following logic. At some point during each one of these peoples lives there was a defining moment that made them what they are today.  Although this is true its an easy answer to a complex situation. Lets set the following control for the homeless man and CEO. They both come from a middle cl...

Omnia Opus (Latin) – All Work (English) This will be the 'calling card' of my new venture. I have learnt so much about myself over the past year, it is unfathomable. I will be giving 110% of myself to the world and I should get a good return on my investment. “People never change”. The person that said that had no idea what life is about or how a person can change if the correct knowledge was gained. The most valuable lesson for me was not only to gain knowledge but how to apply said knowledge. Taking action is the key to life. I know that I am making this sound easy. I can tell you that it is not easy, but possible.

During my career I helped a manager with advice on a newly appointed senior manager lack of business communication skills. This article is from the managers point of view. Dealing with a diverse group of managers with their own unique work ethic and skill set, communication is crucial. It is also important to keep in mind that you are dealing with adults so professionalism is key. In this case a senior manager neglected to do follow up work on a three monthly work schedule issued to a manager. The manager did not see it as a priority because of the senior managers lack of stating that the schedule is broken up into weekly deadlines. The senior manager did follow up work only when the work schedule came up for review two months later and was shocked that the manager did not work on the schedule. The manager claimed that it was not seen as a priority due to poor or no communication regarding the work schedule. The manager thought that one month left to complete the schedule would be mo...

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